A column by Bles Carmona
For the week of Oct. 7-13, 2015
The astrology of choosing a wedding date
Every now and then, you have read my writings about metaphysical topics like astrology. Did you know that aside from helping us gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and the people in our lives, astrology can also pinpoint an ideal date for important events like a major surgery, buying a house, or – wait for it – getting married?
You know, as astrologers, we often get asked: “Why should we even bother to find this ideal marriage date and time that you’re talking about? One day is the same as another, as long as both parties are serious and mature in their intent to marry.”
Ummm, yes and no. While it’s true that to those who pay no mind about the art of astrology seem to rise and fall with the fortunes and fates all their own, those who do honor astrological help just want an extra insurance from the Universe that this major event in their life that they are planning is “favored” by the signs which can be clearly seen in the event chart. Every event has a definite beginning, like a child’s birth or the founding of a business, which, with a competent astrologer interpreting the signs in the chart, leads to enlightenment, guidance, and a glimpse into some trends for the future. The same can be said of a marriage. Its event chart stands for its beginning, and this could be made as positive and auspicious as possible by consciously choosing the date, time, and place of the ceremony.
By the way, the process is called a “wedding election.” The astrologer, along with the prospective couple, put their heads together to “elect” the date and time of the marriage, which is technically defined as the moment the couple say their “I do’s.”
It starts when the couple approaches the astrologer to help them determine the most auspicious date and time out of all the possibilities they are considering. For example, the bride may say, “I want to wait for my Auntie Evelyn to come back from her vacation, so it must be sometime after August…” or something like that. The couple lays out their conditions, requirements, and limitations. The astrologer of course has the obligation to state at the outset that there is no one “perfect” date and time. What is most important during an appointment for a wedding election is the couple’s willingness to compromise between themselves and with the astrologer, who of course may have some “strong” ideas of her own based on the astrological principles she knows. But don’t worry. At this point the astrologer is doing some internal compromising of her own, too. Out of, let’s say, oh, maybe 15 or 16 “electional rules for marriage,” it’s very, very rare that all of the heavenly conditions being “required” are satisfied by the resulting event chart.
For instance, you’ve heard about Mercury retrograde, right? Three times a year for 21-25 days each time, this planet, as seen from our Earthly vantage point, appears to be going backward on its path. Aside from Mercury’s symbolic association with communication (Mercury the fleet-footed and winged messenger), electronics, technology, and transportation, Mercury also rules contracts, which marriage obviously is. Well, one of the electional rules for marriage is to avoid a wedding date when the said planet is retrograde, since there is said to be a tendency “to go back on the contract” later on. Even more important is to find a date when the planet Venus is not retrograde. As the significator of marriage, marital harmony, and yes, love itself, Venus should be going direct in the event chart. It’s easy enough to avoid Venus Rx since it’s only retrograde for six weeks for every 20 months or 40 days every two years, depending on the Venus cycle.
And what about the role of the Sun and the Moon? The great astrologer Marion March, to whose work, “Electional Rules for Marriage,” we will be referring, states, “Try to have the Sun and Moon (portraying the groom and bride) in good aspect to each other.” What are the good aspects? A conjunction (0-8 degrees), sextile (60 degrees), or a trine (120 degrees), which describe the distance between two planets by right ascension. It’s easy enough to see these aspects in a natal or event chart, but for now I urge you to use your imagination. For instance, in the event chart of a couple I know who wanted to wed by the end of February 2016, it had the Sun in Pisces and the Moon in Scorpio, and they are trine each other or 120 degrees apart. Taking into account the other “rules,” the Moon in Scorpio is actually to be avoided since the Moon is in its fall in Scorpio. Here is Ms. Marion March again: “Avoid the Moon in Scorpio where it is in its fall and where it can be secretive and possessive, not exactly conducive to a happy relationship. A Libra Moon, on the other hand, works well in a marriage electional chart since it seeks harmony and balance. Strong and well matched couples seem to do well with the Moon in Leo.” Contemporary astrologer Ms. April Elliott Kent of Big Sky Astrology has this to say: “Avoid Moon in Aries, Scorpio, or Capricorn, unless very well-aspected.” The couple in question may just have to live with this since they specified that they need to be married by the last week of February 2016, and the chosen date harmonizes with their individual charts – the guy has his birth Moon in Scorpio, which echoes the event chart’s Moon placement, and the girl has natal Moon in Pisces, which conjuncts the Sun in Pisces of the event chart. Going back to the Venus placement in this couple’s event chart, its location is right at the Midheaven, right out there for everyone to see, which may be a comment on the “public” quality of their union, as if they would be a benevolent “example” of some sort. Furthermore, Venus has some favorable aspects in the event chart like Venus sextile Uranus (the facility to love and surprise each other), and Venus sextile Saturn (love, teaching/learning, karma). As for the Ascendant or Rising Sign of the event chart (the sign at the cusp of the first house), it is preferable that it be one of the Fixed signs (Taurus, Leo, Scorpio, or Aquarius), and the number of degrees no fewer than 3 or no more than 27 degrees rising. Our couple in question has 24 degrees rising in the sign of Taurus, a pretty solid, persevering, and stable sign.
Like I said, there are no 100% ideal charts, but within the constraints presented for consideration in a consultation, it is still an art to determine the final event chart for a couple who approaches an astrologer for this purpose. I wrote about this topic to give interested individuals and couples a choice. You are making an important decision in your lifetime. Provided that you are not being coerced into marriage, then you have a choice about when and where you want this symbol of marital union to commence. At this point, I would like to thank my astrology mentor, Ms. Linea Van Horn, for teaching me the rudiments of determining wedding electional charts in her usual competent, animated, and insightful manner. It has always been a joy to exchange ideas with Ms. Linea because she listens and understands so well. Maraming salamat po!
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